February Focus: Ditch Valentine's Day and Hype Yourself Up
The sole tool that you need to ditch the drama, date yourself and redefine your self worth.
Dear Reader,
This is my bittersweet love letter, crafted with care and sincerity, to you. For you.
This is a resource for you that only you can do and benefit from.
I am just leading the way.
I am sure that, even right now, you are pulling an old, brown, leather luggage suitcase of pain, hurt, grief, denial, suffering, and all the hard-earned lessons life has thrown your way.
I usually say that it is at the bottom where the deepest lessons lie.
As we drag our emotional luggage, believe it or not, February is knocking on our door.
This means that Valentine’s Day approaches, and the ubiquitous pink balloons, candy boxes, rose petals and all these mushy things are going to be around us. (Okay, we can keep the chocolate candy. All year.)
It is in such moments that I can’t help but notice how many people are not in a relationship, first and foremost, with themselves.
I can’t help but notice that so many people find themselves in relationships they don’t want, in relationships that they did not consciously choose, in relationships where their Self is not supported, in relationships where their reactions are predetermined, in relationships where their resources are abused.
Oh, my beautiful reader, I do not mean solely romantic relationships.
No, no.
We are surrounded by relationships, we are part of a myriad of connections: we are born into some, our life path brings us others, we are attracted to a few, and our career has brought us to many.
You can’t hold these relationships if you can’t be in touch with what you want.
You have a deep responsibility to yourself first.
The resource you will find is teaching you to reach a relationship with yourself first, your reality and your reactions. It is moving you from “where I feel stuck” to “what I can change”,
It may look something like:
What I feel stuck: I overcommit my time and emotional resources. At the end of every day, I feel exhausted.
What I can change: I can practice pausing before I say “Yes” to whatever it is I am being asked to do. I have to pause and check in with my time and energetic/emotional availability.
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